“You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do.” ― Carl Gustav Jung.
Dear beloved audience of mine, sorry for scaring you with the title. Todays inspiration for a blog post started with a scene of movie. Its not often that I watch movies, and today was different. I was watching a 1981’s indie film called a ‘Chirutha’, and in it was a scene where the protagonist, a pregnant tribal woman falls in eyes of a man, who subsequently makes failed advances and eventually tries to rape her, and is then killed by the woman’s husband. the story is grim, and the film is a 10/10. But, With further thought, its not the first time that this kind of character development is seen. We’ve seen it in so many countless movies before, ( Kaabil, Lipstick under my burkha, Parched, to name a few) A man (the villain) thinking he has the right to do anything, vile and damaging things, without consequences of his actions.
As many artists would attest to my opinion, a lot of art revolves around inspiration taken from real life events, topics, or situations. What is it that makes this line of story real? Is there some truth attached to this idea? (the question was rhetorical, of course there is)
I don’t want to simplify such a complex and controversial topic, so I cannot give a “if this, then that” kinda answer for the same, but I think conversation about this needs to be made (even if it is a monologue such as this blog)
I think there is some truth as to why a in majority of rape cases, the men are the culprit, regardless of the country, western or eastern, democratic or Islamic, developed, or developing . Call it society and the environment’s conditioning, or call it an inherent flaw of man and something along the lines of violent tendencies/primitive tendencies being present in every man but only restricted by ones self control and rational thinking of their action’s consequences and the “Rightness” of their actions, I cannot say because I do not know. It something that needs to be researched on more deeply; Just like a specific set of genetic makeup and/or childhood trauma causes someone at risk of being a pedophile, if there is something genetic that makes a rapist/sexual offender.
I may be criticized, ostracized even for my opinion, I think my opinions on this are highly controversial but I think there is some truth to it. I think that to some point, there has to be some genetic factors at play here too. In every country, the results are the same- Men and women cant be just friends, without the men not having any sexual thoughts about their female friends. Its not just my opinion too, there is a study to back my claims here- ” https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/men-and-women-cant-be-just-friends/ “
TLDR- The results suggest large gender differences in how men and women experience opposite-sex friendships. Men were much more attracted to their female friends than vice versa. Men were also more likely than women to think that their opposite-sex friends were attracted to them—a clearly misguided belief. In fact, men’s estimates of how attractive they were to their female friends had virtually nothing to do with how these women actually felt, and almost everything to do with how the men themselves felt—basically, males assumed that any romantic attraction they experienced was mutual, and were blind to the actual level of romantic interest felt by their female friends. Women, too, were blind to the mindset of their opposite-sex friends; because females generally were not attracted to their male friends, they assumed that this lack of attraction was mutual. As a result, men consistently overestimated the level of attraction felt by their female friends and women consistently underestimated the level of attraction felt by their male friends.
There’s also countless videos on youtube that back up my claims, like-
Sneako’s channel- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r6cqbIoI4Xk the one with the highest views- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA and to be honest, countless many more.
I think men inherently know this for a fact; that with any female friends they have, they have thought about a relationship with them at some point. If asked, Most of them will deny it to avoid confronting the demons within them, the truthful ones will tell you its true. So the question is, do women the women who have this belief that they can be “just friends” know about this and choose to ignore it for the attention they get from the opposite sex, or are just blissfully ignorant about it?
Rambling about this, we skipped the main point of this blog. What the movies who show “males who lack self control and rational thinking of their action’s consequences and the “Rightness” of their actions and choose to Rape” are not conjured out of thin air, there are some real statistics behind this generalization, and I think my opinions on this are highly controversial but I think there is some truth to it.
In conclusion, as the Swiss Psychologist Carl Jung states, you are not “You are what you do, not what you say you’ll do.” I think having thoughts of violence/depravity/cannibalism/murder/and other unspeakable acts are normal, and rather than doctors “treating” them by suppressing these thoughts (which I think everybody has regardless of them publicly accepting it for fear of being looked down as a creep/freak and worse labeled as clinically insane) I think the better option is to accept the presence of these thoughts, and instead work on being strong enough mentally and physically to fight the urges and having the moral strength to know right from wrong and decide on doing only what’s good for society.
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